In a world dominated by social media and constant connectivity, comparing ourselves to others has become second nature. Whether it’s appearances, achievements, or lifestyles, these social comparisons have significantly distorted our sense of self-esteem. We’ve become conditioned to view ourselves as inadequate and unaccomplished due to popular media that’s been heavily edited, causing us to misrepresent the standards of society. This blog will discuss how to break the cycle of social comparisons and regain a healthy level of self esteem.
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Understanding Self Esteem
Self esteem is the foundation for how we view our abilities, opinions, relationships, and self-worth. A healthy level of esteem can equip you with the resilience to take on new challenges, embrace new opportunities, and to overcome the hardships that life may throw at you. With low self esteem, we become more susceptible to the accomplishments of others, breeding a cycle of comparisons, growing insecurities, and a lack of motivation.
Social Comparisons
Social comparison is the tendency for us to evaluate our abilities, opinions, and beliefs by comparing ourselves to others. While social comparisons can sometimes inspire motivation and a positive self-image, they often lead to negativity and self-criticism. Social media amplifies this effect by showcasing highly curated and edited versions of life.We take what we see online as reality, distorting our standards for ourselves, creating feelings of inadequacy and jealousy.
Breaking The Cycle
- Shift Your Focus – Redirect your energy towards personal growth and self-improvement. Set goals aligned with your values and passions rather than inherited expectations. Focus on what you have rather than what you lack, and practice gratitude for the positive aspects of your life. Celebrate incremental progress and remind yourself that everyone’s definition of success is different.
- Limit Social Media Usage – Social media amplifies comparisons by showcasing overly idealized versions of life. Recognize that these portrayals often omit struggles, hardships, and failures. Reduce the time spent on platforms that trigger self-doubt, and follow those that inspire and uplift instead.
- Challenge Negative Thoughts – When you catch yourself in that comparison spiral, question the validity of those thoughts. Remind yourself that everyone faces struggles and setbacks, and know that working through them will only make you stronger.
- Surround Yourself with Support – Build relationships with those who will encourage you and be there for you during your moments of struggle. Supportive friends and family can reinforce your self-worth and remind you of your strengths.
Breaking the cycle of social comparison requires acknowledging that your worth isn’t tied to how you measure up to others. Self-esteem comes from recognizing your unique qualities and valuing yourself for who you are. If you are looking for support, feel free to contact us here at Relucent for a consultation with a licensed depression therapist.
